But we have suffered a lot of loss in the last few years so dealing with fleas and having the patience to teach a dog when and when not to bark is not something he is always up to do. My yorkie Rocky being one of them. Does she make a lot of noise(endless licking or snoring)? I even made the dog my responsibility at times just to help us out but it does nothing but drive me mad because it shouldnt be my problem. These people dont change and will turn against you for their dog. My bfs dog (hes never had pets & bought the dog for his kids when he & his ex wife divorced bc he thought it would make the divorce easier for the kids.I know, terrible idea! He said he didnt want to upset me but that now it was closer to being a reality with our move to the countryside, he couldnt deal with it. My guy would never put that thing in a crate. Ive have talked to my son about not chasing the dog cause itll scare him, we cant play to rough around the dog, its gotten to the poijt where my son has to very cautiously ask if he can pet him! It does not help she has nipped me before and has a tendency to walk behind my legs up close which freaks me the hell out! They both are very jealous and possessive dogs! Sleep, forget about that too. These people can not see that they are the actual issue. I broke up with him because I saw no possible way for this to work, and I didnt want to force him to choose between me and the dog. Im married 13 years, we had a small dog for 8 years and she died from heart problems. We will be gating off portions of the home where she cannot enter because the hair and smell is just too plentiful. When cooking, the dogs are right there in the kitchen in the way, so you constantly have to make sure you dont step on them. I am discussed with them and cannot express my frustration without creating an issue. I wake up every morning and he has let her in the bed after I have fallen asleep or she comes up on her own. I knew she shed before I moved in but I had hoped to stay on top of it more when actually living here. If you are unable to do so, the dog will be rehomed as this is a fair reason. But, I promised to give you 23 solutions. See none of these behaviors are normal. We all go into relationships expecting our partners to be normal-rational humans that treat dogs like animals and not god-beings. Remove the dog from your house. It went something like this: I was looking at brochures to get decorating ideas for the babys nursery. I never knew that I would ever feel about animals because like i said, I have always loved animals and had animals growing up and took great care of them. Also, every time we eat, he stands right next to us at the table breathing heavy and drooling and I tell him to go away and my wife tells me not to get mad at him. I loved them, played with them, protected and cared for them, but they never usurped my relationship with a member of my family or a man. All similar to you except she got a second one to keep company of the first one! Think logically. But it's amazing how often we jump through psychological hoops of self-justification to convince ourselves that things are really working. Grrrrr. So dont feel guilty. Like Ive been pushed aside. I read about training and raw food and Chihuahuas themselves. My desire to complete my furry family is running strong. They go berserk at anyone that comes near the house but im not alloud to interveen to shut them up, my daughter calls me a c##t and my wife says im a bastard but not to my face. Good luck. I know this is going to be a daily struggle between us if they would live with us. This Is so hard and your exactly right about the strange things dog addicts allow! Yet I find myself at the end of mine because as a human in a human relationship I cant understand why its so wrong for him to treat his dog like an animal. If you really want a dog, talk to him about finding some sort of compromise. To be honest, we cannot complete the obedience train on a specific day because it is a consistent and ongoing process where you can teach the dog new tricks and commands every day. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. And if youre the one resenting your partners pet, be clear about what you need to feel better. Its very unsettling to have someone that puts a pet above you and doesnt know what boundaries are. Im becoming totally bitter about this. The dogs get along great together too. Im done if this behavior continues. Hes done it before, a few times Its always in the way ugh. Here is my problem, my Husband is the dog lover, I love all trained obiediant animals, my husband sat with me and talked about getting a breed that requires extensive daily interactions and training, i told him i was not ready for that commitment, it would fall mainly on him. Thank you all. So I need some advice. I cannot tolerate it. A poster above said humans are not naturally monogamous. We both work hard and long hours, so a dog has never been an option, I love cats, but would settle for a rabbit or Guinea pig, but even this is met with an absolute no. I knew his dog shed but BOY OH BOY did I not realize to what extent!!! If your partner is annoyed by a specific behavior such as excessive scratching, its time to call an expert. on all of that! Mine lets the dog in the sofa and the bed even though I told her I didnt like it. You are very lucky to have a supportive partner. Im frustrated with the urination problem. His dogs are so spoiled, I feel like they come first. Think about when you have kids? My bf has 2 goldendoodles and in my opinion, they are the most annoying dog breed of all because they are hyper, crazy energetic and tons of nervous energy). In Peru, they smack them with a stick and then eat them. He is abusing your dog and youre letting him. I train, strictly, on one commanded at a time, and while the other things are happening I just say no, and take it away. Allowing your dog to do human things is failing that animal in my opinion. I am a light sleeper and cannot sleep with snoring (she is a pug and snores quite loud), not to mention Ive never liked having a dog sleep in my room. Your husband/boyfriend may want to rehome the dog because of Allergies. The only place is the cage when we leave the house. He does not take the dog for a walk, a bath the dog, or even have time to play with the dog. My fiance has made comments on having to choose between his dog and i, and its his dog he would choose. It is ludicrous to fault someone and say well you knew she had a dog. The day I received an ultimatum about my dogs is the day my SO would be hitting the road. My Australian shepherd is just a puppy and has done some destructive chewing, which he was properly punished for, but he didnt start this habit until I met my boyfriend. If they get some exercise, good food and some attention when others ate here, they will be fine on their own for awhile. She hardly barks and does not defecate or urinate in the home. My blood boils because she is a very smart dog and knows this is wrong. Me. We had the exact same problem except I had two dogs when I met my boyfriend. I think instead of writing bad things about dogs you have to think about your loved ones not the dogs. Because Im usually the one home first, given that my working hours start way earlier than my wife. I could never get used to those gross drooly dogs but tried a relationship with a dog but it just doesnt work. My boyfriend cant stand me saying anything either..TODAY the freakin thing jumped up on my rocking chair & it was rubbing itself all over it. My house smells like a kennel and is full of fur. I am torn with the relationship , I love the man but I dont what to do ? Because he hates him please help. She found her dog and said the shelter never told her how bad he was. I refuse to leave with a dog that stinks like s***. As far as the relationship I dont like to say it but maybe its best if you did separate, though it hurts to think that way. Depending on the dog, they dont live that long (smaller dogs live longer). Then invest some money in a dog trainer, and they know exactly what to do. This works greatespecially if this is a smaller dog. She is a pit bull, but very submissive. A person chuckles when they first see him. I know what it feels like to be second to the dog. I lived with being blamed for things I didnt do, snide remarks, one upmanship contests. Not to mention, it creates all sorts of issues for the dog. I went to bed and my SO comes back to the bedroom to tell me what a POS I am, threatens some bodily injury to myself, says well never have intimate contact again and that shell cut my hands off if I so much as touch her. He constantly complains that it is in the way. I dont know what to do. I think in Mistys case all she can fairly expect is for her partner to groom his dog more so that the fur is as little a discomfort or annoyance as possible. I hate that. Life is about work and staying busy so I really feel Ive never had the time to get a dog or take time to care for one. How many times have we apologized for getting into a bad fight only to get into another one a week later when he throws it in my face. He began to cry immediately and it woke my girlfriend up and she yelled at me. All rights reserved. There is a lack of respect of others in a situation like this. She also sniffs constantly. Hi Julia, my partner has just left me for his dog.. Im 8 months pregnant, he got a puppy just before we found out I was expecting and Ive spent my entire pregnancy miserable and stressed, I was left to look after it- even though the agreement was he was to do that because Im not a dog person, he babyfied it so it wanted his attention constantly and was jealous of me and my 2 kids, it was messing in the house but he would not hear a word said against it, I tried and tried to just get on with it for his sake, I didnt want it in the first place and he used emotional blackmail to get me to agree to getting itif I cared about him I would want him to be happy etc. Bb, you sound like me and my wife. And my dog is the only one that can get into trouble. If the dog cant be cured, and is posing a danger to you and others, then it is right to take a stand. I was tired of it jumping all over me when I got home from work and scratching my clothes, playing rough in the house, pulling so hard on walks, stealing food off the table, begging, sleeping in the bed, etc. So 4 years in we have 1 dog so neurotic i wimpers and is stuck to her heel the whole time shes home, it has to sleep under the bed she would have it on the bed if i didnt make a stand, it sits on her whenever she sits. I felt exactly the same way, and loved my boyfriends dog before we actually moved in together. i feel terrible having feelings of anger towards a dog i feel worse having feelings of jealousy toward the dog.i told my husband this is crazy..im your wife..you married me not the dog wth man my wishes and needs dont mean anything to you i will leave when i am able.he didnt say anything to that.didnt seem to care..my husband is usually a very loving kind man my kids love him he is great with them..we should be spending time together excited about our new baby on the way..but the only thing he cares about in his free time is his dog and video games.help its making me extremely depressed. No. This thing is hyper and destructive, and my husband refuses to make it ever behave. It made me realize that we will never be able to have another dog in the picture, which is terrible because I had been thinking about getting my own dog for a while now. He literally cannot do anything without pissing off my boyfriend. Its disgusting waking up to ripped open poopy diapers from the dog getting into the trash, its pisses me off having my brand new sheets covered in dog hair..btw im the only one washing the sheets since its insisted the dog sleep in bed with us and my SO jusy says ive always had my dogs sleep with me my whole life. I know this is cruel but for my sanitys sake I find myself just waiting for thag dog to kick the bucket. I limit the amount of time that I see one of my dear friends because I leave her home covered in animal fur. I am not an animal person. He never does it when someone is in the house so we rarely catch him doing it. Practically a no brainer. Im not a fan of bulldogs. HOW IN THE HELL IS THIS WORTH IT??? The dog might end up dead if it is given away . Share responsibilities: You need to take some weight off from your husband/boyfriend if you really love the dog. I am through! I HATE having fur on my clothes. And then all those hairs EVERYWHERE and a constant smell of ammonia of all the pee in the house. Place a few towels on the furniture armrests to wipe the drool. We tried for one night to keep Fido out of the bedroom, but he whined all night and damaged the door frame by clawing at it. Compromise. So my (27F) boyfriend (32M) lives with me. Ive always had dogs so I know how to train them from puppies & I believe in boundaries with pets. Being dropped off at the shelter can be traumatizing for a pet. I just had a long conversation yesterday with my boyfriend of more than ten years about my new dog. Ive been trying to be a team player, but Im worried Im not cut out for this. Basically, she made a conscious choice to choose the dog and the current state of affairs over me. Thats bad but whats worse is that he doesnt understand, or doesnt care, that your basic needs arent being met; the needs of his real lover, the dogs, are being put before your needs. Developing a relationship with an animal is pretty easy, quick and simple but developing a deep and lasting relationship with a human will most always require much effort. No. Thats disgusting. Omg! The dog cant stand up for himself but you can. On top of that, one of the dogs has shown aggression to another dog and has mauled him very bad. I walk the darn thing all week and would love my husband to want to come out with me at the weekend. If this is due to aging effects, he will give you sort of special pieces of advice. I have so was so hurt and mad at what she said to one of my friends. Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog was not into people, other dogs, she was very reserved, so having a puppy around freaks him out. She is great with people, kids and other dogs never shows aggression or anything but only towards him in these situations. I would have to draw the line at having dogs in the bed with me. Theres highly rated dog food for 1.1/kg but she wouldnt think of it. Why even have a relationship with a person if theres the chance you are gonna let them leave or discard them over an animal? We fight about it and he says he hates the dog. Its just crazy! Dog fanatics include both men and women and those who are affected, who put up with the filth, the cost, and the behavior, are also gender-mixed. Husband now is only concerned with dogs appearance rather than his wife. To be honest, I love so many dogs, and they are a huge part of my life. If you leave, it will hurt at first, it always does, as the movie Hope Floats has a very good line, Beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but its whats in the middle that counts. Me and my boyfriend have a 10 month old jack Russell Terrier mixed with a cocker spaniel. I lied to my spouse that I was crying for another reason so another dog fight did not occur. At the beginning he was sooooo good with my dog. We cant leave Jake alone. I ended up ordering our food to go, but still. Dogs are not kids, gah that makes me want to vomit. She never really chewed much but did on a few occasions when she was a puppy. It shows she not only has any idea how pets work, but what is really helpful for someone who is depressed. She ended up being not even the breed they claimed. But after expressing my feelings towards my partner and them being disregarded, I mostly dont want the dog on the bed because my feelings were tossed to the side. You grieve and then another little personality comes into your life, but suicide? Regardless the animal was never trained properly and she has no intentions of attempting to do so. The dog sleeps in the bed always on my legs and he snores very loud. If you love each other you find a way of adapting whilst keeping in mind the comfort of your boyfriend as well, but there is only so much you can do and someone who is completely opposed to the idea is never going to work. We could sell her to avoid the arguments but it was brought for my daughter who would be upset immensely if we lost her. Oh when I was gone for those two weeks I guess he left the dog outside when he went to work and she ended up chewing the door frame :\ its like she HAS toys out there why would she want to chew on the house!! There are many constraints you have passively aggressively imposed on your partner. First thing is her need to feed the dog everything shes eating to be point where its expected! Except I had the Siberian Husky, who showers regularly and smell great. Spray some in the dogs mouth so she knows what it tastes like, then spray it on whatever you dont want her to chew. If he keeps jumping up maybe try a kennel at first. I would let her sleep with us until she pooped in our bed. We would leave her home while we went to the store and after awhile she started to chew on things. I havent been able to talk to my bf much about it as Im scared it will lead into a huge fight and hell breakup with me over it. Take the high road and start showing a little more love all around. Oh my goodness this is similiar to my story. She cannot go anywhere in the home without hair going everywhere. I dont get it, and even if he is spending time with me the dog just stands there and cries staring at him, so he always gets up and goes to he dog, leaving me. When Im upset about hair or stinkiness in the home due to his dog I have to tell him. Hope you found this helpful. She is constantly making licking noises, eats my dogs food when my dogs not looking and seems to act like more of a jerk when my boyfriend is gone. he just did it to be dominant and its my husbands fault for refusing to accept the fact his dog needed more training than he was willing to givehe said i told u i would have to get rid of my dog because of you..like i purposely sacrificed my baby to his dog just because i hate the dog.ughhhlike its my fault his dog has to go because it was my child that was the victim.no i just wanted my kids to be safe and the dog to be in a better suited home his whole family said he never should have allowed the dog around kids at all and im right and he just dont wana admit he was wrongnow we have to take the dog to a rehabilitation shelter and my husband is upset to have to end his relationship with his beloved hell hound this way..and i can only say i told u so..he finally did confess to me tonight that he was afraid the whole time that this would happen and hes sorry he endangered our kids by insisting the dog stay here and by not listening to me about training or re homing the doghe spent the entire day with our baby girl and feels terrible.as bad as i wanted to just put the dog down myself i dont have the heart i just hope this shelter can find someone that has no small kids and the ability to deal wth this kind of agression.i feel bad for the dog and my husbandbut i feel worse for my daughteri hope u can find some sane middle ground in your situation..i never did and my child suffered because husband had to put an animal above his human family. 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